50 Day Question Challenge 2016 - Day 15

[changeling67]

15. When do you think a person is ready for marriage?
For some reason, this question has irritated me - because it presumes that a) I expect that everyone should get married and b) I am some authority on the concept and base it around my personal bias.  Absolutely nothing is guarenteed - some people chose their life partner early on; some very late or not at all.  Some should not be in long term relationships because their default setting is to be suffocated by that very thought and to react accordingly.

For me - I kinda knew back when I first met him.  However, I have a natural abhorrence to traditional dress/style of wedding (Woman = Meringue/Hubby = Penguin).  He proposed - I accepted with the only condition that it was as low key as I could make it.  I was exceptionally happy with a borrowed gypsy skirt and scoop neck top, registra marriage with five people in attendence, meal afterwards.  Total cost (ring, certificate, food) = £150.  Been married 22 years, now - so I think we are doing something right :-)

Comments

[spikesgirl58.livejournal.com]

We spent more than that, but we just ticked 37, so I think we are in good stead (and he's still my best buddy). *hugs*

I think people have gotten carried away with the 'glamour' and truly forgotten what's important, the commitment you are making to each other.

[calico-pye.livejournal.com]

My thoughts exactly.

[bluegerl.livejournal.com]

Well done Rosie, WELL DONE. and it makes me VERY VERY HAPPY to hear it.

I got 'UN programmed' for marriage by ...oh a whole lot of things, and I tell you, the sight of that picture gave me cold shudders! Big scream and runs off all ALL directions (I do love that phrase, gallop off in ALL directions.. apparently someone actually DID print that !

It DOES make me so happy when people have married people they loved and STILL DO after the passage of much time.

[calico-pye.livejournal.com]

I think most of society doesn't get involved with each others business. I know there is a friend of mine who got engaged about three years ago and who is in no rush to get married. Yet, well-meaning friends and others keep forcing it on her and even worse, keep asking when they are going to have children. She has been pretty much anti having kids and gets so fed up about it, especialy when one said that it was her "social imperative" that she MUST do it, or what are women for (it was a man who said it).

J and I rub alongside pretty good. I think you have to like each other as well as love, or there is nothing there, is there?