50 Day Question Challenge 2016 - Day 25

[changeling67]

25. Are you confrontational?
Ordinarily, no.  I will walk away from arguments rather than be antagonistic.  If someone is being needlessly antagonistic, I will enquire as to what their problem is, but i refuse to be drawn into other people's control dramas.  Button-pushing has never been a thing of mine and usually avoid those who feel that is the only way they can get attention.

Comments

[spikesgirl58.livejournal.com]

That's me as well! My mum an dad fought a lot and I can't handle it when people yell at each other. I can't bring myself to do it.

*hugs*

[calico-pye.livejournal.com]

I had that a bit with my folks, too. Licence to rant is ok, but not rowing or deliberately picking fights.

[spikesgirl58.livejournal.com]

They had some knock down, drag outs - never physical, but still really loud and angry. TBG and I have never had a fight. We rarely even raise our voice with each other.

[calico-pye.livejournal.com]

Many years ago, I lived with a former partner and was subjected to domestic violence. I was only a teenager and lived with it for 2 years.

I think if you come from a volatile background, there are a few things that happen - you are either doomed to replicate that behaviour and unconsciously seek a set up that will do just that, or somehow you overcome the preconditioning and seek better life choices.

[spikesgirl58.livejournal.com]

I think it's a 'flee or fight' instinct - I tend to flee and do my best to avoid. I have a friend who thinks I'm a door mat because I refuse to argue and yell. She can think what she wants. She doesn't want to know what I really think of her at times.

[calico-pye.livejournal.com]

Yeah - don't take my silence as abject stupidity, take it as a sign that you have been weighed and found wanting :-)

[spikesgirl58.livejournal.com]

Exactly. I refuse to lock wits with an unarmed person. :P

[hillarygayle.livejournal.com]

I find that most of the things people are confrontational about are ultimately pointless. I am not at all afraid of confrontation, but I definitely prefer compromise 90% of the time. That way when I finally do dig in my heels and become confrontational about something, people can easily understand how important I think it is.

[calico-pye.livejournal.com]

It certainly would make people take you more seriously. I tend to let things go over my head, but occasionally I will put my head above the parapet and shoul 'foul'.