It's a long story. Many years ago, someone came into my life and changed it forever. And I mean really changed it, for the better, I believe - though I didn't think so throughout most of the time. Things are coming full circle and they will be leaving to live elsewhere soon. A fond friend - didn't appreciate the baggage that came with it, but special nevertheless.
Also - recently, I have found several close people who are also on the move and because of their location, we will stay in touch - unlikely to meet, though. One is moving to Canada, one is selling up and moving to somewhere as cheap as she can afford. One grows older and has to find accomodation to suit. It's quite a few goodbyes, I think. Maybe one too many :-/
wow, sorry to hear about all those relational changes. that would be extremely disconcerting to figure out what to do with the vacuums they've created.
yes, it is inconceivable how what we had come to rely on for friendship and community can suddenly dissolve with age. people become ill, compromised financially, die, many things erode our relationships. not sure of your age, but it sounds similar to what i've been experiencing as well lately with an aging arts community. people fall out of the picture, so to speak and i have to restructure my activities and friendships accordingly. suddenly i myself am in such a position in dealing with tgn. man this pain sucks. i never had pain of that sort throughout my life. now it persists like god has decided to punish me, although i've quit believing in any god anymore. it's pretty much up to us and the choices we make.
if you'd like to talk more about it off the page for any reason, message me. i did ask about your trigeminal neuralgia and how you are able to cope with it at this time as well. i am just starting to experience it over the past month or so and it's a kicker!
if you have tgn, i feel deeply for you. it sucks to be tgn.
Yes - One at a time over a gradual period would be no problem. Mass exodus however, is another thing. With some, it's not just the next town, it's in Canada ffs. It is the vacuum that I am concerned about. especially one of them. Like - yeah, turn my life upside down, fill it with glitter and grit and blood and rainbows for almost a generation THEN fucking leave. Great. I'll WILL get over it, but because of the strength of my feeling, I will treat it like a mini passing - grieve and then move on.
Our community died when our last little shop was dissolved with our post office closing. Many close people don't live near me (bar one and she's the one who is trying to sell up and scale down into cheaper accommodation), but are still within an easy distance. I can be guilty of putting myself well out of reach, too. Not only for my sanity, but for the fact I HAVE to complete this degree. So many things hinge on it.
I did read your PM on your TGM - I will PM you later when I am nearer a home PC :-)
Yes - my Canada relocaters are net friendly, as so is my friend in dire circumstances, but the special one? No - prides themselves in being AWOL when it comes to having a net presence. Because of history, I am unlikely to see this person without others in tow - or even at all. And I have to accept it as it is.
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Date: 2016-09-04 03:12 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2016-09-04 12:12 pm (UTC)From:Also - recently, I have found several close people who are also on the move and because of their location, we will stay in touch - unlikely to meet, though. One is moving to Canada, one is selling up and moving to somewhere as cheap as she can afford. One grows older and has to find accomodation to suit. It's quite a few goodbyes, I think. Maybe one too many :-/
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Date: 2016-09-05 02:17 am (UTC)From:yes, it is inconceivable how what we had come to rely on for friendship and community can suddenly dissolve with age. people become ill, compromised financially, die, many things erode our relationships. not sure of your age, but it sounds similar to what i've been experiencing as well lately with an aging arts community. people fall out of the picture, so to speak and i have to restructure my activities and friendships accordingly. suddenly i myself am in such a position in dealing with tgn. man this pain sucks. i never had pain of that sort throughout my life. now it persists like god has decided to punish me, although i've quit believing in any god anymore. it's pretty much up to us and the choices we make.
if you'd like to talk more about it off the page for any reason, message me. i did ask about your trigeminal neuralgia and how you are able to cope with it at this time as well. i am just starting to experience it over the past month or so and it's a kicker!
if you have tgn, i feel deeply for you. it sucks to be tgn.
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Date: 2016-09-05 12:23 pm (UTC)From:Our community died when our last little shop was dissolved with our post office closing. Many close people don't live near me (bar one and she's the one who is trying to sell up and scale down into cheaper accommodation), but are still within an easy distance. I can be guilty of putting myself well out of reach, too. Not only for my sanity, but for the fact I HAVE to complete this degree. So many things hinge on it.
I did read your PM on your TGM - I will PM you later when I am nearer a home PC :-)
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Date: 2016-09-05 04:44 pm (UTC)From:; ))
well, we always have the internets
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Date: 2016-09-05 07:11 pm (UTC)From:may new love enter your life
Date: 2016-09-06 02:04 am (UTC)From:; '